I know that sometimes, it will take me a few days to find the right words to write in my blog for my readers. I think it is sometimes, just the creative process. But I love It ! That is why I know that while writing can be struggle, and still I find it giddy and same time I like the process of finding the right words.


It’s my own private journal and I am free completely when I write on my blog. Sometimes I just discribe some object in my taste and that I spill through my pen. Sometimes , I let out all my frustrations or emotions up on my key board.

Eventhough, I save my work and I never re – read or edit my writings, I just publish it, that makes me feel happy and I have got more freedom.

I asked to my neighbor, who resides near to my apartment. He has crossed sixty and leading retirement. What kind of changes you are feeling after your retirement . He said to me the following and very interesting , humorous and thoughtful lines , which I would like to share with my readers.

He started that !!!, ….

After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, now I have started loving myself.

I just realized that I am not “Atlas” the world not resting on my shoulders.

I now stopped bargaining with vegetables, fruits and grocery ventors, after all a few rupees more not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his children’ s School fees.

I pay the taxi driver without waiting for the change , the extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.

I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that many times. After all the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relivinng the past.

I have learned that, no need to correct the people even when I know they are wrong, after all one of them making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

I give complements and appreciation freely and generously. After all It is a mood enhancer not only the recipient, but also for me.

I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt . After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.

I walked away from the people who don’t value me , after all they might not know my worth , but I know.

I remain cool down , someone plays dirty politics to out run on me in the rat race. After all, I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.

Iam learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions that makes me human.

I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. After all my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationship I will never be alone.

I have learned to live each day as if it is the last . After all, it might be the last.

Iam doing what makes me happy, after all I am responsible for my happiness and I owe it to me.

Here I remind you all, why do we have to wait for so long, why can’t we practice this at any time and any stage

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Psychologists explain how to stop over thinking


Over thinking can lead to serious emotional distress and increase your difficulties. Endless thinking makes a serious mental health problems also.

Over thinkers spend most of their walking time ruminating, which causes pressure on themselves. Then they mistake that pressure to be stress.

Over thinking can take many forms, endlessly deliberating when making a decision, attempting to read minds, trying to predict future .

People who over think consistently run commentaries in their heads, criticizing and picking apart what they said and did yesterday , terrified that they look bad and fretting about a terrible future that might awaiting them.

Overthinking , when it is dominating their minds , as if an invisible jury is sitting in judgment on their lives. And they agonize over what to do next, because they are deeply concerned about how other people will interpret in their activities. They don’t sleep well because ruminating and worrying them awake at night.

Ruminators repetitively go over events, asking big questions, Why did that happen? What does it mean? Explain that Susan Nolen Hoeksema, the chair of the department of psychology at Yale university and the author of Women who think too much, how to break free of overthinking and reclaim our life.

So often people confuse overthinking with problem- solving , ” says Odessky the author of stop anxiety from stopping You” but what ends up happening is we just sort of go in a loop. We are not solving the the problems.

Overthinking is destructive and mentally draining. It can makes you feel like and you are stuck in one place, and if you don’t act, it can greatly impact on your day to day life. It can quickly put your health miserable and totally risk.

Rumination leads you more susceptible to depression and anxiety. Many people overthinking because they are scared of the future, and what could potentially wrong. Because we feel vulnerable about the future. We trying to solve problems in our head.

Extreme overthinking can easily sap your sense of control over your life. It robs us an active participation in everything around us.

Chronic worries show an increased incidence of coronary problems and and suppressed immune functioning.

Dwelling on the past or the future also takes us away from the present, rendering us unable to complete the work currently on our plates. If you ask ruminators how they are feeling, none will say happy.

Overthinking will trap the brain in a worry circle. When ruminating become has natural as beating , you need to quickly deal with it and find a solution to it.

” you can cultivate a little Psychological distance by generating other interpretations of the situation, which makes your negative thoughts less believable, says Bruce Hubbard , the director of the cognitive health group and an adjunct assistant professor of psychology and education at Colombia University. This called cognitive restructuring.

Ask yourself what is the probability and what I scared of will actually happen? If the probability is low, what are some more likely outcomes?

How to defeat this pattern of thinking and win your life back

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Chronic worrying is not permanent . It is a mental attitude that can be broken. You can train your brain to look at life from a different perspective.

To overcome this overthinking , you have to replace the thoughts. ” Tell yourself don’t make a certain thought is not the way, and you need to replace the thoughts.

What are you going to think about? Okay , you just think about red elephants !!!

What happened?

That’s ok: red elephants, if you don’t wanted to think about a red elephant , image in your mind . How much time you hold in your mind?

Talk yourself out of it by noticing when you stuck in your head.

So you can reschedule your overthinking Habits if you can start taking a grip in your self talk, that inner voice will provide a running monologue throughout the day and even into the night.

You can also control your ruminating habit by connecting with your sense. Just you can be noticed that what you can hear, you can see, you can smell, you can taste and your feelings.

The idea is to reconnect with your immediate world around you, then you spend less time in your mind.

Be aware your over thinking habits and talk yourself this will help you take control on your thinking.

When you feel anxiety and uncomfortable, thinking what I am doing? and where I’m going? Everything in your mind , then you should take a walk around there and see what happened. ”

Sometimes you stuck in your career, tell yourself or write in your diary. I want a job job where I feel more comfortable.

Then make a plan to expand your skills and find for a better opportunities surrounding yours.

Do a brain dumb of everything on your mind in to the page , sometimes that can afford a sense of relief. Distract yourself and redirect your attention to something else that requires focus

If you wanted to interrupt and replace hundreds of times a day, it will stop fast . Even if the switch is simply to return attention to the task at hand, it should be a dicision to change ruminative thoughts.

If you taking this practice, you will be able to easly recognise when you are worrying unnecessarily, and you can choose instead to do something in real life rather than spending a lot of time in your head.

Don’t get lost in thoughts about what you could have, then you should do defferently. Mental stress can seriously impact your quality of life.

An over active mind can make life miserable. Learn how to stop spending more time in your head is the one of greatest gifts you can give yourself.

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Like all habits changing your distructve thoughts pattern can be changed, but it’s not impossible.

With practice you can train your brain to perceive things differently and reduce the stress of over thinking.

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DYSLEXIA


Functional MRI shows under activation in areas where they are weaker and over activation in other areas to compensate. Thus there is a failure of the left hemisphere rear brain systems to function properly during reading. There is also greater activation in the lower frondal areas of the brain. This leads to conclusion that neutral systems in frontal regions may compensate for the distruption in the posterior area.

Functional MRI in individuals have shown three areas of left hemisphere to be active while reading.

1. Broca’s area and inferior frontal gyrus

2 . Parieto – temporal area

3 . Occipito – temporal area

The Broca’ s area and inferior frontal gyrus is responsible for a relatively slow process of articulation and word formation.

The parieto-temporal area is responsible for word analysis: It is believed to analyse a word, pull it apart and link its orthography ( letters) to sound.

The occipito temporal area is the express pathway to reading open to the skilled reader. This area reacts almost instantly to all the word as a pattern identifying the word by sight . It helps in identifying written word .

There are thus three neutral pathways for reading, two slower analytical one’s, that are mainly used by the beginning readers and express route, the occipito temporal, relied on by experienced skilled readers.