Powerful Tips for women Empowerment

Happy women’s day, Helping Hands

  • Go for a walk daily
  • Eat nutritious food
  • Indulge in creative work
  • Revive your hobbies
  • Spend some time with family and children
  • Eat and chat with family members
  • Join with a support group
  • Listen to music
  • Include reading habit in your day to day life
  • Get professional help when you need it. Seeking help is a sign of strength
  • Sleep 7-8 hours every day
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Psychiatry as a branch of medicine ,has been cold- shouldered by physicians for a long time. There are various reasons for such an attitude ,but most important exposition is an unfamilarity with the psychiatric disorders and their treatment. This is easy to understand in the light of the fact that an comprehensible, none intimidating and concise text on psychiatry was not earlier available easily.

The simplest way to define a psychiatric disorder is a disturbance of cognition (thought) condition (action) or affect ( feeling) or any equilibrium, the three domains between.

According to the WHO, health is a state of complete physical and mental and social wellbeing and merely not abstinence of disease or infirmity.

Normal mental health much like normal health is a rather difficult concept to define.

There are several models available for understanding what may constitute normality.

  • Reality orientation
  • Self-awareness and self knowledge
  • Self esteem and Self acceptance
  • Ability to exercise voluntary control over their behavior
  • Ability to form affectionate relation ship
  • Pursuance of productive and goal directive activities


Specific Learning Disorders

The child presents with a serious delay in learning to read which is evident from the early years. The problems may include omissions, distortions or substitutions of words, long hesitations, a reversal of words or simply reading.

Writing and spelling are also impaired. It is important to differentiate the disorder from scholastic backwardness, there for a proper assessment is needed.

specific developmental disorder of motor functions

It is also called motor skill disorder, developmental coordination disorder, clumsy child syndrome or motor dysphagia. It is characterized by poor coordination in daily activities of life, for example in dressing, walking, feeding and playing. There is an inability to perform fine or gross motor tasks.

Specific disorder of speech and language (dysphasia)

There are three types

1. Phonological disorder (dyslalia)

It is characterized by below-par accuracy in the use of speech sounds despite normal language skills. The problem including severe articulations errors that make it difficult for others to understand the speech. Phones or speech sounds are omitted, distorted or substituted ( e.g.cart for caret, book for blue, etc..)

2. Expressive language disorder; It is characterised by a below par ability of using expressive speech. The problems include restricted vocabulary ,difficulty in selecting appropriate words, and immature grammatical usage. Cluttering of speech may also be present.

3. Receptive language disorder. The disorder often presents as a receptive – expressive language disorder and both impairments are present together. The disorder is characterized by a below-par understanding of language. Problems include failure to respond to simple instruction; It is obviously important to rule out deafness and pervasive developmental disorder.

Specific Mathematical Disorder (dyscalculia)

The child presents with mathematics abilities well below the level expected for the mental age. The problems may include failure to understand simple mathematical concepts. Failure to recognize mathematical signs or numerical symbols, difficulty in carrying out mathematical manipulation, and difficulty in learning mathematical tables.


The treatment of specific developmental disorders is based on learning theory principles and behavioral approaches. It involves the use of special remedial teaching, focusing on the underlying deficit ( eg: perceptual-motor training in motor skills disorders) The treatment of common co-morbid emotional problems is often necessary. Parental education and counseling are important components of good management.

Continuing…………..next post


Depression;a mental health disorder characterized by persistently depressed mood or loss of interest in activities, causing significant impairment in daily life.

Possible cause a combination of biological, psychological and social sources of distress. Increasingly, research suggests that these factors may cause changes in brain function, including altered activities of certain neural circuits in the brain.


• Depression represents a cluster or symptoms

• Diagnosis with depression only requires people to have a few of the symptoms

• A variety of different things can cause and be caused by depression

• Emotions;anger, anxiety, grief , guilt and shame.

• Believing that others have hidden motives or are out to harm them.

• Doubting the loyalty of others

• Being hypersensitive to criticism

• Having trouble working with others

• Being quick to become angry and hostile

• Becoming detached or socially isolated

• Being argumentative and defensive

• Having trouble seeing their own problems

• Having trouble relaxing

• These may include changes in sleeping, appetite,energy level variation, concentration, daily behavior or self-esteem and suicidal tendency.

• Thoughts; cognitive distortion

• Relationship:poor, self-esteem, unhealthy / unsupportive. Relationships need for external validation

• Physical: Neurochemical imbalances, poor neutrinos,exhaustion, insufficient sleep, medication side affects

• Environmental: High stress Environments that prevent relaxation / rest and increase hopelessness/ helplessness.

Strength based assessment

What does this mean to you?


Treatment consists of anti-depression

  • Medication
  • Talk therapy
  • Cognitive-behavioral therapy
  • Psychotherapy
  • Meditation/ yoga


Mood Disorder




Parents role in child development

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Parents play an important role in the overall development of their children. Parenting is not ending in their lives. It is the right to guid and mould to develop the character of the child by parents. The parents can’t get away from once the time comes. Children need their parents from time to time, to guide on right track. Here is that all need to know about the role of the parents for the development of their children.

What are the important role in child development?

The 🍎 does not fall from the tree and that the branch grows as the twig grows can well mentioned the effects of parenting styles on child growth and development.Parenting and child development go hand in hand. All development is interrelated and can not be defined under watertight categories. So let us focus on how parents can actively participate to ensure the child’s growing years are worthy. The role of parent in child development is a great responsibility and it has no end. It governs responses , actions and thinking and decision making of a child in the following tips.

1.Cognitive Development

When a child growing up, the positive parenting improves their cognitive, social skills and problem solving skills.

It effects their responses and helps them grow up to be better human. It is all about recognising problems, handling all situations well and picking up all traits of discipline, time management and effective problem solving through simple way at home. Interaction and stimulation are very important in younger years.

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2. Socio cultural development

Children observe between parents interaction and how arguments are settling in family. It reaches them some values that are imbibed and crucial to growing up. The child learns how to behave with others, it gives team spirit, select right friends and ect..

Encouraging, supportively loving are very effective in child development. Show your child that he is loved all the time and that you are always there for him, no matter what.

Appreciation for good work

3. Spiritual Development

Understanding religion and,prayer, knowing right from wrong, being empathetic, having the right ethical values about parents and elders and strengthen the goal setting liberate the free spirit in children. Teach your child to be more acceptable and believe in greater good can help them gain a sense of purpose.

Talk to your child and hear what he has to say before jumping to conclusions, make sure you think from your child’s perspective and let him express himself. Remember, positive feedback is always better than negative impact or blames.

Parenting styles help the children learn innovatively, accepting failure and overcoming them, understanding discipline, accepting feed back and the award and punishment concept. It governs their response to stimulate ,thus moulding their minds.

4. Physical Development

Reach age related milestone is not the only goal in life. Children learn about being healthy , exercise regularly, being a team player, having the right diet and growing in a conducive environment through the play and learn the way. The right guidance from parents can inculcate in children a good regime of exercise and diet to achieve Ideal physical development. Parents should remember that children lead by example.


Parenting styles help the child learn innovatively, accepting failure and overcoming them, understanding discipline, accepting feedback and the award and punishment concept. It governs their response to stimulate and thus moulding their minds.

# Assure your unconditional love and support

If your child falls at something, make an effort to understand why and what to do before you criticize him. But over that, tell him that mistakes do not reduce the love between people. Just remember supportive parents and families encourage each other to learn and offer the possibility to be able.


Children naturally turn to the parents to play, if they feel stress, fear etc..But past days are gone when father was bread providers and mother did all the nurturing, attachment and interaction.

The role of a father in child development is very important. Children will always look up to their father for motivation. Similarly role of the mother in child development has moved on and is not restricted to nurturing and caretaking alone . From that first touch and look to later years, a parent is responsible for making the tiny infant into a well grown, responsible and caring adult. This parenting tips will helpful to bring up your child in right path.

#Be positive

Children can easily sense negativity,no matter how young your child is, discuss your problems with them and how you handle them. Encourage your child to participate with you in defferent small house hold tasks. Teach him how to be creative and how to solve problems with a positive attitude.

# Be sensitive to your child’s needs

Irrespective of how small your child’s needs are, understanding and fulfilling them is very important to help your child realize that you are there for him at all times and that his needs never go unheard.

# Be emotionlessly present

Encouraging supportively and love yield good result only when they are cultivated, worked on, nurtured and pruned. Show your child that he is loved all the time and that you are always there for him. No matter what.

# Communicate effectively

Talk to the child and hear what he has to say before jumping to conclusions. In every conversation, make sure you think from your child’s perspective and let him express himself. Remember positive feedback is always better than negative comments and punishment or blaming.

# Talk to the child even when tired

Hard work gives immense satisfaction and the reward for you is watching your child learn how to deal problems, how to deal with financial insecurity, how to interact with others and how to be a little like you. So talk to your child no matter how tired you are at the end of the day. He will learn the same and be there for his family, just like you.

#. Be affectionate to all

Children pick-up what they see, hear,at home. To a child, using harsh words, quarreling loudly, fighting constantly, incorporating bad habits and swearing feels absolutely normal if he sees the same at home.


Obsessive – Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive compulsive disorder is a mental illness that causes repeated unwanted thoughts or sensations or the argue to do something over and over again. Some people have both disorders obsessions and compulsions.

An obsessive thought might be to wash your hands many times after touch something that could be dirty. Although you may not wanted to think or do these things but, you feel powerless to stop.

Thoughts and activities that, people with OCD

  • It is beyond your control
  • It is not enjoyable
  • It is interfere with work, social life
  • Take up at least an hour a day


Repeated chekking, contamination, simmerty and ordering, rumination and intrusive thoughts.

Body balanced & gets your weight loss

Well Noni juice concentrate enriched with Kokum is a powerful, health-giving food formulated from nature for better health, greater energy, vitality, body balancing and well being.

Noni (Morinda Citrifolia)is rich in vitamin A, vitamin B, vitamin C and minerals like calcium, potassium, iron and phosphorus. Noni is best known to build xeronine levels in the body. Xeronine is required by many vital systems in the body to carry out their important functions. Noni is rich in antioxidants and helps revitalise cells and tissues. It is known to promote healthy joints, healthy hearts, healthy liver and boost immunity.


Kokum is an excellent source of antioxidants that helps to minimize the impact of many diseases. Kokum is traditionally been used to fight against acidity, indigestion, dehydration and gastric concerns. It is known to purify the blood, fight cholesterol and is widely used in weight management.


Rehabilitation treatment for addictions

Written by ramlavengoli


Integrated rehabilitation center for addictions. Nadakkavu p.o, Calicut:11, Kerala, aided by ministry of social justice and empowerment, govt, of India.

5 days program, for post graduate students in Counselling and addiction management 16/12/19-20/12/19

Researched areas:

  • Alcoholism
  • Drugs addiction
  • Narcotics addiction
  • Mental desease
  • Diabetes
  • Obesity
  • Road accidents

There are two types of alcohol users

1. Social drinkers:-

  • They drinks occasionally (festivals, functions,or birthday celebration)
  • Habitual drinkers (controlled and limited)
  • Socialist drinkers ( this types are not spending money, but join with companion in free coast)
  • Excessive drinkers ( according to the availability drinking more excessively)

Behavioural & attitude

# Looking after the family

# Care giving to children

# Workholic

# Keeping ethics and values

# Social involvement

2. Alcoholic :-

  • Addicted drinkers
  • Family collapse
  • Job missing
  • Education misused
  • Dignity lapse
  • Money loss
  • Physically weak
  • Lack of appetite
  • Forget social ethics
  • Collapse parenting
  • Likes loneliness

Chronicone/ dangerous stage:-




Inferiority complex

Withdrawing from social activities/ family activities

Body pain

Attacking tendency

Aggressive mentality

This condition must be treated by psychotherapist

It is a primary desease

Treatment found by WHO and AMA in 1956


What does rehab entail?

What is drug rehab?

What to look for in drug rehab treatment center?

Committing to recovery!!

Meditation in drug rehab

Life changes in addiction rehab.

Discussion about rehabilitation treatment

Mental Health

Mental health is the balanced development of an individual’s personality and emotional attitude which enable him to live harmoniously with his family and society. Mental health is influenced by both biological, environmental and social factors. It helps a person to contribute constructively to changes in his social and physical environment.

Mental health helps in:-

  • Development of desirable personality
  • Proper imotional development
  • Acceptable social development
  • Appropriate moral development
  • Significant aesthetic development
  • Actualising one’s personalities
  • Seeking proper adjustment
  • Attaining goals in life
  • Progress of the society
  • Prevention of mental illness . Mental health improves quality life. It is strengthens and support our ability to:
  • # have a healthy relationship
  • # make good life sources
  • Maintain physical health and well-being
  • Handle the natural ups and downs of life
  • Discover and grow toward our potential

However mental health of the children is much more important than that of physical health. Mental fitness makes children more useful person in the world and also equipped physically, socially and morally.

Mental Health

Mental health is the normal state of well being. Though mental health is a positive attitude and relative quality of life. The degree of mental health that an individual enjoys at time is subject to to countinues change. Mental health is a condition which is charecteristic of the average person, who meets the requirements of life according to his capacities and limitations. Mental health is not merely absence of mental illness. On the other hand, it is a positive, active quality of the individuals daily living. This quality of living is manifest in the behaviour of an individual, whose body and mind are working together in harmony. His thoughts, feelings and actions function jointly towards the common end, the successful accomplishment of his duty. Such a person can balance his feelings, desires, ambitions and ideals in his daily life, capable of facing and accepting the realities of life. His Habits of life. His Habits of work and attitudes towards people and things bring maximum satisfaction and happiness to the individual. He does things without any friction with the social order or individuals with whom he works.

Mental health has two important aspects, individual and social. The individual is internally adjusted. He should be self confident, adequate and free from his own conflicts and tensions or inconsistencies. He must be skillful enough to be able to adapt to new situations and achieve internal adjustment in a social setup. Society has certain value systems, customs and traditions by which it governs itself and promotes the general welfare of its members. It is within this social framework that the internal adjustment has to be made. Only then, the individual becomes a person who is acceptable as a member of his society.

To sum up, mental health is a state of a person’s own mental well being in which individuals feel basically satisfied with themselves, in their roles in life, and their relationship with others.

Find Out a Niche for Highest Earnings and Traffic!!!!!

Now I discuss to you how can specifically target high earnings content and AdSense topics that will help you to get higher earnings on your website.

I give you an idea, how to study your existing landing page EPMV, most successful categories, author metrics, and related keywords to attract advertisers that will bring you more money .

More over you will understand a few cool hacks for finding out relevant niche topics and AdSense topics make the highest advertiser competition within your realm of expertise, so you can start after content that will make higher Ad Earnings.

How much money can you make from each website visitors ?

How much money a website makes from display advertising or AdSense can vary dramatically. 1000 visits can generates less than $1USD or potentially$500USD in display and revenue depending on thousands of factors. For advertisers, there is no secret that certain audience are just simply worth more than others. This means that certain topics connect specifically with audiences that advertisers covet, it is relevant location and subject matter . Advertisers will bid more impressions on website that feature access to their coveted audience.

However It is not just about advertisers bidding more. It’s about competition for bid as well. Your content should attracted an audience that lots of advertisers want bid on.

I explain to you, how to hack Google AdSense to find the highest earnings topics for your website.

Simply writing a topic won’t necessarily make the audience that advertisers wanted; nor will it guarantee a lot of traffic. You need to able to write content that attracts quality traffic , you can search organically it is one of the best ways to find.

What is more, insurance, medicine and travel, diet food are traditionally high earning topics. But everyone can’t cater their content to these subjects. For example, if you have a website on a fashion, there may not be a lot of opportunities to target topics about cooking food or travel that your site can rank for in search results.

How can you target topics that makes good traffic, get the right audience and make the highest earnings.

Use the tools that Google ads and Ezoic. For Ezoic users , the free big data analytics application provides metrics on page and website performance , user and traffic trends, and much more. I will be walking through big data analytics and you can find your categories and pages using my website.

What categories and pages are the most valuable?

Know that which categories and pages of your website produce the most ad earnings will provide the foundation of targeting high earnings advertisers in your niche. This is better than out right knowing which content categories makes the highest earnings for all of AdSense for all display revenue. Targeting content based on this information may be a total waste of time unless your website is equipped to rank for those keywords or target the same.

Set Suitable Categories for your Topics

In big data analytics, navigate to the content tab and select categories . I never set any categories for this site , but most publishers will have a hand full of categories. My top categories are about education . If you use categories already on your website, this will typically get some clarity on which one is driving more of your revenue.

Then you can see a category to target, just look at individual pages of the website to decide which gets more value. Now you can decide which pages are the highest earning by studying which pages have the highest earnings per mile visitors.

Just mentioned that before, EPMV is a better metric to study than RPM because it measures the value of users entire visit, rather than just a single page. EPMV gives you a better idea of what pages provide the most valuable to the rest of your website.

Navigate to the content tab and then ‘landing page’ to see how your individual pages perform. Study your landing page can give you a lots of information on the performance of your website, including revenue and traffic data.

Who is writing best content?

Big data analytics also let you see which author is producing the highest earnings and most visited content. To do this’ select ‘author metrics’ in this example

However, if had a multiple writers or website authors, this would allow you to see who is earning the highest page RPM as well as how many articles they have made in a certain periods in website you can see that everything per week. This gives you good idea which authors make best content, their best categories are, and the landing pages they have produced.


Altogether, this should make clear that subjects are making the most amount of money and which author is providing the highest earning content. This can help you better in hands that you can pay writers and make clear with this to write more as well.

Does the website revenue come from the page or the visit?

From here, it is important to understand, which articles on the websites are earning the highest EPMV and why. Some website is making the bulk of their revenue from single page visits. It is mentioned that pages should be attracted the audience and get good engagement, thus advertisers bid for space on that page

The alternative is that visiters are landing on a page and generating lots of as impressions and get higher earnings.

Is your website generating good earnings from the content where the visitors land on a page and stay, or is it the landing pages that attract visitors to other pages?

In big data analytics, the visit depth tab will show you how many other pages a user visited after landing on a specific page.

I tell you that visitors don’t typically navigate to other pages after visiting the highest earning pages. There are many instances where people visit more pages but mostly visitors land on a page and then leave the website. This understand us that we can’t really rely on the visitors to visit many pages, so we should aim on it.

Which Niche pays the highest in AdSense and other non – Google networks

Now we know which is the most popular categories, the highest earning content, which writers are making that content , and how our audience behaves, we can being writing content that will attract the attention of high bidding advertisers .

Remind in your mind, the internet is filled with shady operators looking to make fast money off and writing about” the highest earning AdSense Niche” beware about this.

To do this, you can use Google AdSense to better understand how advertisers are behaving in your niche

Step 1: create a Google ads account

This no way that you have to begin advertising with Google Ads, we are going to use the tools within it . It will ask you to set up a campaign and such, but just make and leave or pause it, then it will remove automatically.

Step 2: The tool we wanted in Google Ads is the new keyword planner, which you can find in the left panel, there you can open the application.

As you understood before, one of the best categories on the website search . There are many filters you can apply on it. But I recommend to select related ideas, this will provide information on topics similar to the other topics.

If you have a topic that is very broad, it is good for bringing related ideas. If your content is more specific, such as education or health, that you can select related ideas more.

Step 3: see the keywords associated with different monthly searches, how competitive it is, they share as impression and the top of page bid. Though these are search ads versus display ads, It give you an idea of what advertisers are bidding the highest on.

Step 4: from there, sort the results for top of the page bid, as you can see the highest bidding topics are any. This gives you a good idea of what types of keywords and topics are the highest earning and how much competition there is for that keywords. Which categories are a great place to start for creating content that high earning advertisers will be attracted to.

Using related keywords to target high bidding advertisers

Now you have collected all datas need to begin to structure the content that may appeal to highest earning advertisers.

  • Categories
  • High earning EPMV Pages
  • Author metrics
  • Valuable keywords
  • Valuable topics

There are few ways to get about targeting these advertisers and it will vary for each publisher and topic . If your visit depth is deep for your highest EPMV articles, you may want to consider what you can do to make the series of articles versus a single article on the topic. Otherwise it may make more sense for you to write on an article.

Targeting these types of subjects you can make double literally , there you can see the EPMV also diversifying the content on your website.

These news I have experienced on my website that I interested to share through my blog Discovery

Thank you


Your brain is much better than you think; just use it. Leonardo Da Vinci

The human brain is the command center for the human nervous system. It recieves input from the sensory organs and sends output to the muscles.


The large part of the brain is the cerebrum, which is divided into two hemispheres. Underneath lying the brainstem , and behind that sits cerebellum. The our most layer of the cerebrum is the cerebral cortex, which consists of four lobes, the frontal lobe, the parietal lobe, the temporal lobe and the occipital lobe.

The cerebral cortex is greatly enlarged in human brain, and it’s considered the seat of complex thought. The frontal lobes are associated with higher level functions such as self control , planning,logic and abstract thoughts . Visual process takes place in the occipital lobe, the temporal lobe process sound and language, and includes hippocampus and amygdala, which play roles in memory and emotions, respectively. The parietal lobe integrates input from different senses and it is important for spatial orientation and navigation.

The brainstem connects to the spinal cord and it consists of medulla oblongata, ponds and midbrain. Relaying information between the brain and the body, supplying some of the cranial nerves to the face and head , and performing critical functions in controlling the heart, breathing and consciousness .

Between the cerebrum and brainstem lie the thalamus and hypothalamus. The thalamus relaying sensory and motor signals to the cortex and it is involved in regulating consciousness, sleep and alertness. The hypothalamus connects the nervous system to the endocrine system where hormones are produced via pituitary gland.

The cerebellum lies beneath the cerebrum and has important functions in motor control. It plays a role in coordination and balance and may also have some cognitive functions.


Definition of intelligence

Define intelligence:- is the aggregate or global capacity of an individual, to act purposefully, to think rationally, to deal effectively with his environment .

Intelligence classified in three categories

1. Abstract intelligence :- It is the ability to understand words, numbers and letters and to use them effectively abstract intelligence is required in ordinary academic subjects in schools such as reading, writing a solving academic problems.

Binet Kamath test of intelligence

Modified version of Stanford. Binet scale measuring intelligence of Indian children

It is an age scale where in the test are grouped into age levels extending from 3years to superior adult level ( 3years 22 years)

Each age level consist of six test

There is no test for ages 11 years to 21years

Piaget’ s theory: intelligence is an adaptive process that involves an interplay of biological maturaion and interaction with the environment . He views intellectual development as an evolution of cognitive processes such as understanding he laws of nature the principles of grammar and mathematical rules.

2 . Determinants of intelligence.

Heredity and environments Twin studies: identical twins/ fraternal twins

Environmental studies: environmental deprivation and environmental enrichment, cultural variation

Heredity places limits on one’s intellectual potential and environments determine where one falls within these limits.

3. Concrete intelligence. It an ability to understand and deal with things, as in skilled trades or scientific appliances this is also known as mechanical or motor intelligence.

Social intelligence

Social intelligence is revealed when a person is able to establish social relations in conformity with his social and cultural norms.

Letters are running from my hands

At school as a teacher l had to heal few children those are struggling with letters, still I remember that, some teachers called them lazy and blamed them left handed, forefathers found it was a sin because left handed child got a poor memory.

I remember becoming frustrated at school , the child has a lot of ideas in his mind, but he couldn’t explained that to his teachers and classmates. He was dreaming a lots In the class room , while teaching subjects by teachers. While teachers asked questions to him , he was blinking to the words in his hands , class mates rediculed and teacher shouted at him, and the boy frustrated with this incident and run away from the classroom.

Some how catched him by school driver’s help , and I have got in my hands . I took him to my cabin and discussed with him, and i thought he wants individual attention for his study

I decided to have a meeting with a support expertise from my school’s learning support department . We discussed about his learning difficulties . After being referred , they have concluded , it was a learning disability means “Dyslexia”

The result found that he had a common traits of Dyslexia. From then alloted an extra time for his studies. I suggested every subject teachers to help and give a copy of notes, so that he could go over them in his hands on his own time.

Despite his struggle with words, some how he managed to get pass marks.

As a teacher, who have to fill out numerous amounts of forms and read a large amount of documents. I am proud of that I will add something extra by myself for the result that I have helped these students, where my service shines through .

I know that sometimes, it will take me a few days to find the right words to write in my blog for my readers. I think it is sometimes, just the creative process. But I love It ! That is why I know that while writing can be struggle, and still I find it giddy and same time I like the process of finding the right words.

It’s my own private journal and I am free completely when I write on my blog. Sometimes I just discribe some object in my taste and that I spill through my pen. Sometimes , I let out all my frustrations or emotions up on my key board.

Eventhough, I save my work and I never re – read or edit my writings, I just publish it, that makes me feel happy and I have got more freedom.

I asked to my neighbor, who resides near to my apartment. He has crossed sixty and leading retirement. What kind of changes you are feeling after your retirement . He said to me the following and very interesting , humorous and thoughtful lines , which I would like to share with my readers.

He started that !!!, ….

After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, now I have started loving myself.

I just realized that I am not “Atlas” the world not resting on my shoulders.

I now stopped bargaining with vegetables, fruits and grocery ventors, after all a few rupees more not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his children’ s School fees.

I pay the taxi driver without waiting for the change , the extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.

I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that many times. After all the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relivinng the past.

I have learned that, no need to correct the people even when I know they are wrong, after all one of them making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

I give complements and appreciation freely and generously. After all It is a mood enhancer not only the recipient, but also for me.

I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt . After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.

I walked away from the people who don’t value me , after all they might not know my worth , but I know.

I remain cool down , someone plays dirty politics to out run on me in the rat race. After all, I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.

Iam learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions that makes me human.

I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. After all my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationship I will never be alone.

I have learned to live each day as if it is the last . After all, it might be the last.

Iam doing what makes me happy, after all I am responsible for my happiness and I owe it to me.

Here I remind you all, why do we have to wait for so long, why can’t we practice this at any time and any stage

Thank you for reading, ramlavengoli.info/amazon.in

Psychologists explain how to stop over thinking

Over thinking can lead to serious emotional distress and increase your difficulties. Endless thinking makes a serious mental health problems also.

Over thinkers spend most of their walking time ruminating, which causes pressure on themselves. Then they mistake that pressure to be stress.

Over thinking can take many forms, endlessly deliberating when making a decision, attempting to read minds, trying to predict future .

People who over think consistently run commentaries in their heads, criticizing and picking apart what they said and did yesterday , terrified that they look bad and fretting about a terrible future that might awaiting them.

Overthinking , when it is dominating their minds , as if an invisible jury is sitting in judgment on their lives. And they agonize over what to do next, because they are deeply concerned about how other people will interpret in their activities. They don’t sleep well because ruminating and worrying them awake at night.

Ruminators repetitively go over events, asking big questions, Why did that happen? What does it mean? Explain that Susan Nolen Hoeksema, the chair of the department of psychology at Yale university and the author of Women who think too much, how to break free of overthinking and reclaim our life.

So often people confuse overthinking with problem- solving , ” says Odessky the author of stop anxiety from stopping You” but what ends up happening is we just sort of go in a loop. We are not solving the the problems.

Overthinking is destructive and mentally draining. It can makes you feel like and you are stuck in one place, and if you don’t act, it can greatly impact on your day to day life. It can quickly put your health miserable and totally risk.

Rumination leads you more susceptible to depression and anxiety. Many people overthinking because they are scared of the future, and what could potentially wrong. Because we feel vulnerable about the future. We trying to solve problems in our head.

Extreme overthinking can easily sap your sense of control over your life. It robs us an active participation in everything around us.

Chronic worries show an increased incidence of coronary problems and and suppressed immune functioning.

Dwelling on the past or the future also takes us away from the present, rendering us unable to complete the work currently on our plates. If you ask ruminators how they are feeling, none will say happy.

Overthinking will trap the brain in a worry circle. When ruminating become has natural as beating , you need to quickly deal with it and find a solution to it.

” you can cultivate a little Psychological distance by generating other interpretations of the situation, which makes your negative thoughts less believable, says Bruce Hubbard , the director of the cognitive health group and an adjunct assistant professor of psychology and education at Colombia University. This called cognitive restructuring.

Ask yourself what is the probability and what I scared of will actually happen? If the probability is low, what are some more likely outcomes?

How to defeat this pattern of thinking and win your life back

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Chronic worrying is not permanent . It is a mental attitude that can be broken. You can train your brain to look at life from a different perspective.

To overcome this overthinking , you have to replace the thoughts. ” Tell yourself don’t make a certain thought is not the way, and you need to replace the thoughts.

What are you going to think about? Okay , you just think about red elephants !!!

What happened?

That’s ok: red elephants, if you don’t wanted to think about a red elephant , image in your mind . How much time you hold in your mind?

Talk yourself out of it by noticing when you stuck in your head.

So you can reschedule your overthinking Habits if you can start taking a grip in your self talk, that inner voice will provide a running monologue throughout the day and even into the night.

You can also control your ruminating habit by connecting with your sense. Just you can be noticed that what you can hear, you can see, you can smell, you can taste and your feelings.

The idea is to reconnect with your immediate world around you, then you spend less time in your mind.

Be aware your over thinking habits and talk yourself this will help you take control on your thinking.

When you feel anxiety and uncomfortable, thinking what I am doing? and where I’m going? Everything in your mind , then you should take a walk around there and see what happened. ”

Sometimes you stuck in your career, tell yourself or write in your diary. I want a job job where I feel more comfortable.

Then make a plan to expand your skills and find for a better opportunities surrounding yours.

Do a brain dumb of everything on your mind in to the page , sometimes that can afford a sense of relief. Distract yourself and redirect your attention to something else that requires focus

If you wanted to interrupt and replace hundreds of times a day, it will stop fast . Even if the switch is simply to return attention to the task at hand, it should be a dicision to change ruminative thoughts.

If you taking this practice, you will be able to easly recognise when you are worrying unnecessarily, and you can choose instead to do something in real life rather than spending a lot of time in your head.

Don’t get lost in thoughts about what you could have, then you should do defferently. Mental stress can seriously impact your quality of life.

An over active mind can make life miserable. Learn how to stop spending more time in your head is the one of greatest gifts you can give yourself.

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Like all habits changing your distructve thoughts pattern can be changed, but it’s not impossible.

With practice you can train your brain to perceive things differently and reduce the stress of over thinking.

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Exam phobia

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No matter, what are the initiatives do the government, experts or educationalists take to ease the burden of children, the vicious circle of exam result stress keep repeating on end. While the parents also the same line with unlimited anxiety for their wards score the system remain unchanged leaving children mentally stressed. Being excessively exposed to such a situation can even lead to the psychological problems among children. This will ultimately downgrade their calibre and aptitude . Then what could be the solution when there is a huge portion of the syllabus to be covered and the heat of the exam is felt closely.

Some steps to make examination easier

We should help children learn how to take on exams. For instance, students who study maths should practice it by doing the sums rather than reading notes or textbooks. They should draw illustration on their own . They can also learn by noting down the points. They can memorise points faster. Children should be trained to overcome fear and anxiety in exam halls so that don’t forget matters they had learned well. Students also practice writing answers in a time bound manner using model question papers . It is not students who have more knowledge who score high , but students who have the skill to perform well in the exam . So along with studies children should be trained to gain the acumen to deal with exam and score high. Above all, children should be made to understand that learning is an enjoyable exercise.

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